VI Fathers say they are not appreciated enough!
With Father’s Day set to be celebrated on Sunday June 17, this news site spoke to several fathers, many of who are of the view that more can be done to show appreciation to them and they deserve to be treated as “Kings” on their special day as well.
One father exclaimed that he does not know which one is worst, having to spend so much money on mothers when their day comes or receiving nothing on Father’s Day.
He lamented on gifts he bought for his ‘baby mama’ over the years. Gifts such as jewellery, phones, electronics and taking her out to have a romantic night. He added that the most he ever got was “a full plate of food.”
The father said if he receives nothing this year, the same will go for the next Mother's day.
Recently on Speak out BVI, a caller said that fathers are badly treated on their special day.
The caller agreed that there are some fathers who are bad and deserve nothing. He added that it is no reason to treat fathers unfairly.
The caller said that because mothers are treated like queens on their day, then fathers should be kings on theirs.
Emile Drummond, in disgust, expressed that it is wrong because both parties are equally important.
Drummond said that the day in reality is so different to Mother’s Day. “Less excitement, it’s just a normal day.” He added that as a father he would appreciate the same love he gives to the mothers on their day.
“It shouldn’t be, like this. We fathers play a huge role in a child’s life. I know that there are some bad fathers out there but there are bad mothers too.”
Another father Melvin Clifton claims that it will be a while before things change for the fathers.
Mr. Clifton stated that the world is more attracted to the mothers, seeing that they are generally around most of the time and are closer to their children.
As a husband, he said the mothers should praise the men for all the work they do. He added that this day should be a special day for the husbands and good fathers.
Agreeing with the comment that all the mothers do is cook a special dish on Father’s Day, he stated that it is not enough.
“Mother’s Day and Father’s Day should have the same level of recognition.”
He said businesses do all sorts of promotions on Mother’s Day, and Father’s Day is just seen as a normal day.
When this news site met with Calisha Tayonee, the message became clearer and clearer, as she responded in a very stern and positive tone.
“The bad fathers mess it up for the good fathers, children are generally closer to their mothers.”
Calisha said that she loves her father, but he will never equal to her mother.
Meanwhile, another female said “women are born to be lavished with gifts and all the men want is a big plate a food.”
She said businesses focus more on Mother’s Day because it generates more sales than doing any promotions on the day dedicated to fathers.
Mothers are second to none
Hon. Fahie said mothers get more attention, which to him is natural.
“A mother’s love for a child is always different for most part, with them having to go through the nine months of labour and carrying the child, there is a natural and spiritual connection with a mother to a child.”
He agreed that Mother’s day gets more public recognition and the economic recognition from businesses as the mother’s love is “second to none”. However, he feels that fathers should strive to understand the origin of it so it doesn’t offend them but they can embrace the differences with a positive mind set.
“We have to continue to be a father in every respect, not only financially but spiritually and give them (children) the foundation to carry for life, and help them to recognise to know who they are and to remember whose they are.”
What is also important he said, is for fathers to remember that “God created us on purpose for a purpose which is God’s purpose and we must instil in them (children) the desire to fulfill the purpose why God has allowed them to exist on his earth. We must ensure we give the children freedom but as fathers, realise freedom without limitations cannot build a nation. We must continue to develop our children even in the rough times. Because today’s seeds of sorrows are tomorrow's fruit of success and also that in life, enjoy the moments that goes well and manage the moments that don’t.”
The proud father encourages fellow fathers to embrace God as being their foundation so that they will always have high self-esteem, high morals and a positive attitude so that they will never let anyone’s opinion of them become their reality.
“Don’t do it for the gifts but because of a moral obligation.”
The History of Father’s Day
Research has shown that Father's Day is a celebration of fathers inaugurated in the early twentieth century to complement Mother's Day in celebrating fatherhood and male parenting.
Father's Day was founded in 1910 by Sonora Smart Dodd, born in Arkansas from Spokane, who was also the driving force behind its establishment. Its first celebration was in Spokane, Washington on June 19, 1910. Her father, the Civil War veteran William Jackson Smart, was a single parent who reared his six children in Spokane, Washington. After hearing a sermon about Jarvis' Mother's Day in 1909, she told her pastor that fathers should have a similar holiday honouring them. Although she initially suggested June 5, her father's birthday, the pastors hadn't enough time to prepare their sermons, and the celebration was deferred to the third Sunday of June.
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